I’ll start off with a little background. My bf had a job about a year ago that required him to 12+ hours every night.

Because of that job his mental health spiralled down to the point I was scared of him possibly hurting himself. It put a huge strain on our relationship as well as he was either at work, sleeping, or I was at work.

He ended up quitting that job and got a new one. The new job let a lot of employees go including him in February. Since he has only applied for jobs like the one I described at the beginning of this post. I have especially said that if they expect you to work more than 40 hours a week then it’s a no.

He promised me that he would decline a job if they asked that of him. As of yesterday, I found out he got a job offer to work that same shift as he did a year ago….

He took it. I am absolutely pissed and I told him exactly what I thought about it when he told me and haven’t talked to him since. My friends keep on saying that giving him the silent treatment will only make things worse and that I’m being over dramatic over a job. 

I know it’s a job but if it affects him mentally it is going to affect me.

I fell in love with a married colleague, but I have a gf.

To be clear, I didn’t know she was married at first. We are from the same department but don’t have any mutual projects or friends, so we never got to interact before.Last month, we went on a company retreat and happened to be in the same grouping. She seemed very smart and cheerful to me, and I found her attractive.At first I thought it was a silly crush that would pass, so I didn’t think much about it.

not a positive post. i am expecting people to burn me although my life is already shit to begin with so whatever, i need to get this off my chest.

throughout my whole life i have been hearing things like it is wayyyy easier for girls to chase guys than for guys to chase girls. i have also witness it many times. the girls are rather average but extroverted and usually the guys are more good looking than them. the guys typically are those wimpy ones that don’t dare to approach girls.

anyway a few months back, i had nothing against wimpy guys or daring girls.

but i was only after i got rejected by a wimp (i do not even think he is out of my league). i cant help but to feel very bitter whenever i see other girls successfully chased a guy.

(can already anticipate what commenters will say. prolly things along the line that i must be ugly, who am i to judge that those proactive girls, i am so bitter i deserve to be forever alone)

all i can say is that love is really about luck. you can be totally worthless and someone will still want you.

and those people who are lucky will only know how to say stuff like, oh you have to put yourself out there. do you know putting yourself out there just prolongs the suffering? i guess u wont because things just come easy for you.

First and foremost, I’ve previously only frequented Singapore thai discos.

I am 21.

Started going to TDs recently but I’ve gotten the hang of it quite quickly, noticing and experiencing my fair share of interesting events… still a newbie of course. Apologies if you don’t like reading, I will add numbered points below that address my questions clearly.

After a Genting gambling trip a couple of weeks back, my buddies and I decided to hit up a few KL TDs to see what they were like…

One evening I met this Thai Disco during the last day of the trip and just really clicked with her (turns out she was the same age as me…). Thinking she was pretty cute and bolstered by our superior $, I hanged a modest 300RM garland on her somewhere in the middle and was promptly bested by someone else with a 2,000RM garland…

Anywho, for some reason, she eventually made her way back to our table and continued to chill with us. Played the usual games till we got to the 10-5 game.

My memory after that is still in a haze, vaguely remembering that she mixed my drinks and cheated like a motherf_cker, whispering that she would take care of drunk me…

I do remember making out pretty intensely in the club… Woke up with a start around 6 am in my hotel… with her next to me (First time dapao-ing btw). Heres the thing, my condom pack was still unopened and unused.

My mind raced at a hundred miles an hour. “F_ck” was my first thought.

– Google HIV testing kit where to buy KL

– Money was still in my wallet.

– D and organs are all accounted for and intact.

– Watch is still on my wrist and my passport still there.

However, the drama happened in the morning after telling her that I had to drive back to Singapore in a couple of hours.

Boom.

She started throwing all this emotional sh_t at me… saying that all I wanted was a one night stand, that she really likes me and wants me to stay longer (usual garbage), etc. I just made it clear that wasn’t an option, called a cab for her and texted her to get back safe…

She’s now been repeatedly asking me to come to BKK to meet her… We don’t text daily, I sort of ignore messages as i’m currently involved in a pretty important project.

Is it worth taking time off to go to BKK? I’ve sort of achieved what i’ve wanted but…

I’ll level with ya’ll, from what I recall, s_x was insane, how do I establish a booty call without destorying up/starting a relationship? If I do go, what should I look out for etc… can anyone with any similar past or current experience chime in here?

Really not looking for a relationship with a TG as their pretty hazardous as a gf option tbh… thanks in advance.

My s/o doesn’t accept advice from ME but will accept the same advice from anyone else. Why?

My s/o absolutely hates when I’m right and very rarely will admit it. I am wrong at times and will admit I am wrong when it’s deemed necessary.

Whenever I give him advice on something, he hates it and goes into a rage.

One time I gave him advice and he didn’t like it but a couple days later, his grandparent gave him the exact same advice and he took it and even admitted how right they were.

This is an ongoing thing. A homeless man can run up to him and tell him something I told him and he will accept the advice wholeheartedly but if I do it, it’s wrong, it’s an issue, I’m the problem etc.

Why is this? On a psychological level, why is it when a partner gives them constructive criticism, advice etc. it’s absolutely out the window?

An anonymous Facebook user posted to an online news media platform. The user revealed her experiences  working as a sales representative in a luxury boutique.

The person describes in detail how she was advised not to waste time on clients who checked pricing on the things in the store because they would most likely be unable to purchase anything at all..

For this kind of statement, most people will probably be a little angry. Netizens also said that this is too realistic, but he has to admit that it is true.

Those are the kind of customer that usually leaves silently after reading the price.

She also reminded other sales associates not to be too proud for working in a luxury booktique

The woman added: “Because the customers in contact with them have a relatively high spending power, they will also classify themselves into the upper-class circle, when in reality, they are just sales associates.”

“The team leader at the luxury boutique where I worked explained that there are three categories of consumers that visit the store.

• One has no money
• one has the capacity to acquire anything but would most likely pay in instalments
• can afford it but has no taste.

The anonymous writer claimed that she was taken aback by the stereotyping of potential consumers.

However, the woman added

“As long as they walk in, there is a chance they will buy something. Why do we have to discriminate?”

The author believes that only the more she knows, can she see the real value of goods and services, and when the knowledge of life continues to improve, she will not only surpass the limitations of poor thinking, but also surpass the attachment to material enjoyment.

Thailand, known for its vibrant culture and traditions, marks a unique event each year – the army recruitment lottery. This annual affair brings together young men aged 21 to 26, randomly selected to join the military service. However, a distinctive aspect of this process involves the inclusion of transgender women, whose sex is still officially listed as “male.”

Recruitment Exercise

The military call-up events, a cornerstone of this recruitment process, create a buzz of anticipation among eligible Thai men. These events serve as the backdrop for the selection of recruits who will embark on their military journey. The age group of 21 to 26 encompasses a diverse pool of individuals, each with their own aspirations and apprehensions.

In an interesting twist, transgender women in Thailand find themselves part of this recruitment exercise. Despite their gender identity, officially listed as “male,” they are expected to participate in the lottery.

Requirements for Transgender Women

Participation, however, comes with a unique condition for transgender women. According to Yahoo News, these women must present medical certificates affirming their new gender identity. This requirement acts as a legal exemption, as transgender women are not permitted to serve in the Thai army. A recent Thairath video highlighted this stipulation, featuring the stories of transgender women who attended one such event on April 2.

Recent Event Coverage

The Thairath video shed light on the experiences of transgender women navigating the recruitment process. Their presence at the event sparked discussions around inclusivity and the challenges faced by the transgender community. The public’s reactions to these stories offer a glimpse into the evolving perspectives on gender and military service in Thai society.

Legal Perspective

The legal landscape surrounding transgender individuals in the Thai army adds complexity to the recruitment process. Laws governing the inclusion of transgender individuals and the challenges they face in proving their gender identity become crucial elements of this narrative.

Impact on Transgender Community

Beyond the legal realm, the recruitment process’s impact on the transgender community extends to social implications. Advocacy efforts for inclusivity gain momentum as transgender individuals continue to navigate societal expectations and legal frameworks.

Importance of Medical Certificates

The requirement for medical certificates takes center stage in validating gender identity. Beyond its legal implications, it plays a crucial role in ensuring fairness in the recruitment process. The emphasis on such documentation raises questions about the broader societal understanding of transgender issues.

Public Awareness and Education

The need for widespread understanding becomes evident as these events unfold. Initiatives aimed at educating the public on transgender issues emerge as crucial components in fostering inclusivity.

International Comparisons

Comparisons with policies in other countries offer insights into best practices for inclusivity in military recruitment. Examining the experiences of transgender individuals worldwide provides a broader perspective on the challenges and successes in this domain.

Transgender Rights in Thailand

While progress has been made in recognizing transgender rights in Thailand, there are areas for improvement in legislation. The ongoing dialogue around inclusivity in military service contributes to the broader conversation on transgender rights.

Perspectives of Experts

Interviews with legal experts and insights from transgender rights activists provide a nuanced understanding of the complexities surrounding the recruitment of transgender individuals. Their perspectives offer valuable insights into the challenges and potential solutions.

Conclusion

In conclusion, the annual army recruitment lottery in Thailand brings to the forefront a unique intersection of tradition, law, and societal expectations. The inclusion of transgender women adds a layer of complexity to the process, sparking conversations about inclusivity, legal frameworks, and societal understanding. As Thailand grapples with these issues, fostering inclusivity in military recruitment remains an ongoing journey.

It was an average Wednesday night. I was working my shift at the pub. I had been working there for about three months, and it had been a great job. I was just starting to get to know the regulars, and the regulars were starting to get to know me.

That night, a woman and her daughter walked in. It was obvious that they weren’t regulars, but they seemed like nice people. I figured they were just stopping in for a quick drink before they went on their way.

Little did I know, they were about to change my life forever.

The mother and daughter ordered their drinks and I went about my business. As I was getting them their drinks, I heard the daughter say something about her mother’s past. She said something about her mother used to work in a pub. She said something about how her mother was a wild one back in the day.

I was immediately interested. I asked the daughter if her mother had ever worked at this pub. She said yes, and I was shocked. I asked her more questions about her mother’s past. She said that her mother had been a wild one in her younger days, and she used to make out with the customers at the pub.

At that moment, it all clicked. The woman I had just served drinks to was my mother-in-law. And she used to make out with customers at the pub.

I was speechless. I didn’t know what to say. I didn’t know how to feel. I didn’t know how my wife would react.

After a few moments of shock, I managed to find my voice. I asked my mother-in-law if it was true. She admitted that it was, and she apologized for not telling me sooner. She said she hadn’t wanted to embarrass me or my wife.

I thanked her for her honesty and said that I appreciated it. I told her that I wasn’t mad at her, and that I understood why she hadn’t told me.

After that night, things between my mother-in-law and I changed. We were more open and honest with each other. We could talk about anything, including her past. We even joked about it sometimes.

It was a strange situation, but it was also kind of funny. I was glad that I was able to look past it, and I’m glad that we could move past it and still be in each other’s lives.

My mother-in-law and I are still close today. We still joke about her past, and I’m thankful that we can. It’s a reminder of how far we’ve come and how strong our relationship is.

So, if you ever find yourself in a strange situation like I did, don’t panic. Just take a deep breath and try to look at the situation from a different perspective. Sometimes, the most unexpected things can lead to the most rewarding relationships.