22(F) here, my best friend of many years seem to be strung along by a guy. Initially, when they got together, I was kinda sour because I lost a companion, but I was pretty supportive of her.
They had fights, I even encouraged her to try longer, try harder because fights are a common thing. I went to find out some of his histories and it is not very pretty. When I found about the things he did and in general the way he treats her, I just did not like him and tried warning my girl about him.
She immediately pretty much hates me right now and thinks im lesbian
they still had fights and she would be the one begging him to get back together. Like many of the previous posts, she is showing signs that she is just keeping quiet so the guy has no reason to fight with her.
She has one condition if we are to be friends again, and that is to accept and be friends with that lousy guy of her’s. Tried asking the reason why and working around that because it is damn obvious he isn’t anything good and is just using her, and I would never want anything to do with him.
She will not accept anything else and just ghosts me, someone who had been with her for years.What can I do about this if she is someone like my family, is there any way I could even accept that guy?
Its not like I do not accept the fact that she is in a relationship, but its more like, why can’t she just keep her bf out of our things and insists that her bf is to be invited or allowed around me .
She would just shut me out and hate me more if I tried saying anything negative about the guy. And she will not listen to outsider opinion about how she is obviously being led around. that guy just hurts her and she will keep running back to him like she is blind. Help me.