Recently a guy was sharing his thoughts and feelings on Facebook regarding the actions of his boyfriend. Hoping to get some advice from the netizens.
His boyfriend was being secretive when going out with his best friend (a girl) and when he came back, he did not tell him anything relating to it. This caused him to be upset over it.
Here is his story,
“I (22M) moved here with my family from Taiwan when I was 17 years old. I met my current boyfriend “John” (25M) through a mutual friend here in SG when I was 19 and we have been together ever since. At the start of last year, he got to know one of my best friends “Sarah” (22F) from JC. I know for a fact that my boyfriend will not ever cheat on me or do anything that will hurt me.”
“The first time Sarah and John met each other was at her 21st birthday bash, and they were very awkward with each other, but after about 5-6 months of casual chatting they are now talking almost everyday. Nowadays, they even plan outings with their own clique like going to art museums and the zoo, sometimes only with them alone. (I am the type that prefer to stay home and play video games on my PS4 and PC, so maybe John feels the need to compensate the excitement somehow). Both of them do not speak about the “dates” to me, and I am slightly unhappy at this. They have become good friends.”
“I don’t have a right to be upset, but I feel a little bit jealous because its like they are hiding something from me, even though they are purely going out as friends. I know nothing can happen between them because my boyfriend is gay (obviously) but is it wrong to be upset? Both of them are the 2 people closest to me, and we still do go out together, but I feel left out and kind of betray when they do not tell me about this type of things.”
“Please help me, I do not know how to handle this”