Hi there! I’m a 23yo male this year and I have recently started working after graduation in a pretty well paying job.
Things are looking up for me and I also have a hunch that my girlfriend is going to propose soon because she has been probing me alot about ring preferences alot in the recent months.
TBH she doesn’t really have any red flags and has alot of green flags: she’s kind, caring, family-oriented and motherly. S is also very good and it helps that we both have high libido. Career-wise she is also doing very well too. I genuinely do see a future with her and want to start a family with her.
HOWEVER theres just 1 thing… she is 10 years older than me and we’ve been dating for about 10 years as well. And if you did the math… Well yeah, I think you’d get it. It kinda was child grooming? I’ll admit we starting having sex really early on into the relationship (less than a year) and we have been active throughout. We also haven’t been using any protection but in her defence, it was a mutual decision.
Honestly I’m torn after doing some self-reflection.On one hand, i really love her and want to have a family. On the other I find it hard to come to peace with the past. I find it kinda messed up.
I’m afraid that others will know about the past and whether it will affect my ability to be a good father to my children. I would say yes in a heart beat if she asked me for marriage a few months ago but now I’m not sure. Please advise this troubled boy!
Here are what netizens think:
- Marry the Jiejie don’t need think so much
- Is this a joke?
- Both OG and this is consider as child-grooming.