I’m 29 years old, female.
Recently, my boyfriend of 1 year has a job that requires him to work long hours, so he proposes I stayover at his place occasionally. His family is very welcoming, and I have slept at his place before (in secret). However, I’m thinking of making it a regular thing and I really am tired of concocting lies to my mum.
Some of you may say at my age I don’t have to ask for permission, but my mum has a very traditional and conservative mindset.
From multiple episodes in the past, she also behaves very explosively when angered. I have tried broaching the topic before, but she thinks sleeping over at my boyfriend’s place makes me look very ‘cheap’ and this may cause my boyfriend’s family to disapprove of me.
Knowing my boyfriend and his family for the past year, I can say with certainty they are open-minded and definitely don’t care about any of those.
At this point in my life, I want to think about my career, buying a flat, starting a family, and not worrying whether my mother will allow me to stay over or whether I can go out at 10pm for supper.
I also don’t want my boyfriend’s impression to suffer, as she may think I’m ‘rebellious’ as I’m being led astray.
Seeking everyone’s opinion, I’m at wits end.