I am 29 years old but i feel like a teenager
Like I’m still a boy. My peers already have families. They have a wife or child or children .
When I meet classmates from school, 60% of them already have children or are already married. I feel like a boy. Like forever teenager.
I don’t even want or feel like a relationship or family right now, and I don’t mind it at all. I just find it strange that most people follow this established cycle and way of life.
I feel like I have Peter Pan syndrome and haven’t grown up. But I’m happy that I’m single and I don’t want to imagine that I would have the same situation and now have a family or a wife or kids. Freedom is a gift.
Moreover, when I see my friends and classmates from school or childhood who already have families and these family “obligations”, it seems to me and they behave as if they have lost their energy and the desire to fool around and enjoy life lije they enjoyed before.
I have fun drinking beer with my remaining single friends and go clubs and parties, and loving life being single with no responsibilities.
I feel like I am from a different type of cloud than anyone else. I really can’t understand those normal traditional ways of living a life in this society.
When will I meet with my childhood friends or classmates or someone from my family. When someone at my age already has children, they looking at me strangely that I don’t have a child or a family yet. What is going on with everyone? Does everyone really have to live according to the trend of civilized society?
Netizens’ comments
Mate, you do you. If you don’t wanna have a family or children, at least not at the moment or in the near future, that is your choice and completely okay. Not everyone needs to live the same lives or lifestyle and as long as you feel fine and are happy with that, that is completely fine. Don’t let others tell you or influence you in what you should do with your life. Because after all, it’s your life. And I don’t think it has anything to do with immaturity.
There are a lot of people who don’t want a family or children or generally a traditional lifestyle. I’m not 29, but 23. My partner and I don’t have any feelings about marriage, so maybe one day, maybe not, whatever, we don’t care that much about it. Children are out of question, since I do not like children and can’t imagine ever having own.
Also, with the mental health of my partner and also her reproductive system disease, she doesn’t want (and probably can not have anyway due to the medical issue) any. We also are generally living a pretty different lifestyle than most people our age, so I definitely feel you and understand about the weird looks and that you are getting.
It took a long time for me personally to learn to deal with “being the alien”, but I think that is still way better than living a lifestyle that you are unhappy with. Anyway, like I said, it’s your life. You do you. And if any of your friends judge you for that, they are not real friends.