I’m a 30F and still can’t move past some awful things my parents said to me when younger
I still think about it and I feel like it’s definitely effected my psyche in some way. Some background, I’m also Asian American with immigrant parents.
1 major thing they’ve said to me is that I’m not “smart enough to be a doctor” and that my mom thinks I’m “smart, but not very smart.”
When I didn’t get the job I wanted, my mom told me that I’ve never been the type of person to get a good job right away after college (whatever that means).
These were said about 10 years ago at the beginning of my young adult life.
I made my husband promise me that he’d never say things like this to our son, who we’re expecting next month as I’m currently 8 mo pregnant.
I’ve talked to therapist about it before and understand that my parents were just projecting their own insecurities onto me..doesn’t stop it from hurting all these years later though.
And yes, I’ve brought it up with my own parents before who claim they don’t remember saying these things.