I [33F] started dating someone [50M] is the age difference too much?
So basically I (33F) recently started dating someone (50M) and most of my friends have told me it’s weird and inappropriate.
We met at work. I was transferred to the same department that he worked in and we were friendly with one another but it never went beyond that.
I stopped working there after about 8 months and found a job that suits me better and we didn’t see one another for months until we ran into each other at a take out place I frequent.
We started meeting up for lunch there every weekday and exchanged numbers. Eventually things became more romantic and intimate in nature.
I’ve had terrible luck with relationships in the past and dating apps make me want to pull my hair out. I thought I lucked out because he’s such a great guy and there’s something special to me about meeting someone organically opposed to meeting them online.
Some of the things my friends have said is that it’s weird for someone his age to be with someone my age. And that he’s old enough to be my father (which I guess is technically true but my actual father is almost 70).
One friend did say “it’s a bigger age gap than I’m comfortable with personally” which isn’t technically negative but it was the tone in which she said it that made me feel like she was being judgmental.
I’m just looking for advice I guess. Anything helps.
Netizens’ comments
- Presidential hopeful Ng Kok Song is 75 years old and his fiancee is 45, I think you’re doing fine.
- As someone who was in a brief relationship with a lovely person in a gap similar to this (ages and all) I would say as long as you’re aligned on what you want it’s probably fine at this stage of life.
What ultimately broke us up was that he was done with kids and more in “chill out mode” whereas I still wanted a family and someone who wouldn’t be upset I wasn’t ready to retire and could screw off whenever. It was all amicable but we realized that deeply caring for each other wouldn’t be enough. But if these are non-issues for you two then it’s fine. - Alot has been covered here that i wont repeat, but think about what you want for your future.
Do you want kids, is he happy with the idea of parenting a child/children well into his 60s?
How is his health? Are you going to be restricted in the future because of his limitations that inevitably come with old age, while you still want to do active things?
It that all sounds ok to you and your happy, go for it.