I (35M) failed to lose my virginity to an (23F) escort. Need advice on how to date
I’m a 35 year old bald, fat, ugly but rich virgin. I considered using an escort for the longest time and did it last week.
Found her off a website and paid $400 for an hour. The first thing she did when I took off my clothes was poke at my stomach fat and say “you must be hungry”.
That got me super self-conscious and I couldn’t perform at all. I couldn’t even get into her. I could see she was getting frustrated so I apologized and left after 20 minutes.
This has just got me even more down haha. I know I’m not attractive at all but I didn’t expect someone I was paying to point that out. I’m probably too sensitive and could have laughed it off too but I was already incredibly nervous.
How do I get confidence to get a real woman to like me?
Netizens’ comments
- Are you at least funny with a good sense of humor ?
- I cannot believe she did that. That’s atrocious.
Some people have said this already, but I’m going to repeat it:
Everyone is into something different, physically. When it comes to my dating life, I love chubby dad bods and regular to small-ish Ds. That’s my thing, it’s what turns me on.
Don’t try to turn yourself into the current male beauty standard. Be healthy in the body you have–whatever size or shape it is. Be the best you.
Yes, that’s easier said that done. Long-term goals, I guess. - Hire a better escort. Probably one your age for starters.
- Your mindset is COMPLETELY off. You need to rethink how you approach life my man. No good woman is going to like you if you don’t respect yourself and have a healthy sense of self esteem.
I greatly encourage you to use some of your wealth to talk to a registered psychologist to work through the psychological traps you’re in, and a good life coach to help you discover your passions and what you’re good at, how to live a fulfilling life.