Yelling at my husband at night and telling him never to sleep in same bed again because he keeps wetting the bed?
Finding myself (36F) in an awkward situation in my marriage. I have been married to my husband (38M) for 5 years and we have 3 kids. We are happily married.
He is very loving and caring to me and the kids, no doubts there, he is a great dad and husband. Problem is now and then he wets the bed at night.
When it first happened, I didn’t even know how to react, I felt embarrassed to talk about it with him. The next morning he took out the sheets and cleaned everything up.
Then it continued to happen; sometimes once a week sometimes every other week. And I have been understanding and empathetic for the most part hoping this phase of his would come to pass.
Background: He lost his full time job 18 months ago and has been between jobs since then. so he does odd jobs now and then while learning to become a property agent.
Well for almost two years now I have been the main bread winner. Not sure if this is the reason for the blow-out bed wetting but recently he wet the bed again and I blew out on him that night, screaming at the top of my voice and told him he should never sleep on this bed again with me unless he solves his issue.
Next day he was back to himself again. Very kind and caring and since then he sleeps in the guest room. I am so confused!
Has anyone been in a similar situation? What should I do? I love my husband so dearly and would die for him.
Netizens’ comments
- Your husband is obviously going through something, whether emotional or medical, and rather than offer support, you went after him. I get it: pee isn’t pleasant. But neither is a spouse who makes you feel even worse when you’re at a low point.
You say you’d die for him. Why not trying to help him first? - 1000% bedwetting is not something people can control…
If he is wetting in his sleep, there is a medical problem!!! Whether that is a physical or mental health issue would be for a doctor to sort out.
Let’s see, he lost his job, money is tight, he’s trying to start a new career…. do you think he might be under a little stress???
I get that it’s not fun for you, however, yelling at the man is not going to make it better. Why not be the supportive spouse who has a calm discussion about how to work together towards a solution?