Mum gets Angry if I Say What I Feel
F45 here. I live with my mum and I bought our present home and paid for everything. Before this, we never had our own home and lived with relatives, and stayed in a rental flat for a few years. My parents are divorced and my dad does not keep in touch with us.
Since young my mum disliked me having friends, and she is like a tiger mum. She pushes me to study and expects me to be obedient and listen to her.
Whenever she wants me to do something for her, and if I express my own opinion or feelings, she will say I am threatening her by not agreeing with her.
I know it sounds wierd to those with normal families. But my mum gets upset whenever I do not agree with her.
For instance, she likes to scold customer service staff and if I tell her to stop, she will become unreasonable and scold me publicly.
And when I tell her that her behaviour makes me embarrassed and upset, she will say I am threatening her (she loves to use such strong words) by wanting to get upset.
Since young, she has been so dependent on me and my aunt (her sister) financially and emotionally that it has become so tiring.
Whenever I read about other people having great and strong mothers, it makes me wish I had such a mother too.
Today was really tiring. She did not care that I gotta get up early for work tomorrow. She was upset because I did not know how to help her with some tv wiring, and I wanted to leave it to the weekend. To her, if she want my attention, she expects me to give her my full attention.
Anyone got such a mum like that? Especially one that gets upset if I am not there for her and sees any disagreement as a threat?