Seeking help and advice.
Context:
Male, only child. Dad widowed since 7 years ago and we live together. Career-wise, my dad runs a SME business while I have a stable job, both doing fine financially. We don’t talk much but are on okay terms.
Issue:
Recently, my dad got involved with a China woman. I managed to find out that this China woman is a 39yo (while my dad 60), married with 1 young son, and claimed to be a SG PR. I found out because my dad uses a van for work and we also share a car and he has been using the car very frequently in recent times, e.g. to fetch the woman to work every morning. I got suspicious of what he was doing so I viewed the car’s video recording and got a lot of information about the China woman through their car conversations. (Not proud of invading his privacy but I got to do what I got to do)
Specifically, I found out that she had recently bought over a neighbourhood hair salon with the financial help of my dad. He gave her at least $10k. She has also been pestering him to help pay off her debts because she also borrowed money to buy over the salon. She just wants to hurry and start making cash inflows without needing to pay off her debts.
She also claimed that she is not after his wealth and does not intend to marry him if she divorces in the future. She only wants to have her own house and suggested to buy a 2 room apartment with my dad paying half – 1 rm for her son, 1 rm for her and my dad could go over anytime. (so much for ‘not after his wealth’)
From my perspective, I see that my dad is totally in love with her, showering her with lavish gifts, paying for meals, sending her to work, etc. (I see what he buys for her because I handle his credit card bills). Whereas this China woman is simply making use of him. From the recordings, I see how she gradually progressed from just ‘companionship’ to making him ‘invest’ in her salon to asking him to buy a house with her (which may happen if this continues). She also talked about being careful not to be caught by her husband and she was concerned whether her salon could help keep her PR status. I suspect that if he divorces her, she might be sent back to China? So she’s probably making use of my dad to ramp up her salon income quickly while milking his money.
I have talked to my dad once and asked him who this woman was because he brought her home once thinking nobody was home, but I came back home and bumped into them. He only revealed that she is a friend and he also invested in her salon. He claims that her skills are good and her salon should be able to do well. (but seriously, such neighbourhood hair salons are everywhere, and what does he even know about hairdressing lmao). At that point, I only told him to be careful of such investments and also beware of such China women who are out to cheat older men. (No disrespect to the many China women who have become successful on their own)
I’m just at a loss right now because I know my dad has the freedom to do whatever he wants. But am I really supposed to just let this China woman milk him??