I’m planning some very expensive renovations for my new home. I asked my gf, who is moving in with me in about 4 months if she would consider helping me pay for them.
Now, I have the ability to pay for them myself, but I figured since she would be living here, maybe she should contribute? She said no. She said that of course she will help pay for furniture for us, and help with the utilities and monthly installment.
But she said that she’s not contributing financially to stuff that’s going to increase the value of the house when she has no financial stake in the house and won’t get any equity for it.
And she said I’m a bad person for even thinking that she would consider it. how am I in the wrong?
The toilet looks like from a 3rd world country and of course, she needs to use the toilet. Or she can use the toilet at the nearest coffee shop.
I’m not talking about renovating decorative stuff. I’m talking about the essentials like a stove, toilet and lights.
Here is what netizens think
- Unless she gets equity/ownership in the property then why would she, I wouldn’t. Put me on title and I’ll help but otherwise no thank you. Honestly I would not want to own property with a non spouse. It creates legal hassles and muddies the water in my opinion.
- You can afford something you want, but instead of just buying the thing you want, you’re worried that down the line, someone else might get to enjoy the thing without paying?
- she is right, if you guys break up , she has to leave and you get the lot. If the house was both yours then no problem but only you own the house so you have to pay.