In this country with a high cost of living, it is understandable that the marriage rate is low but I believe there are also issues which cause people to dislike people from different genders. What are some of the reasons?
Respond 1
Just today, I said im happy to pay for my fiancé expenses since i earn a lot more than him and someone said that i was a sour grape who stayed with my fiancé only cause i cant get someone who earns more lol. His assumption was that women just want to pick the richest man lol.
I think the people here just dont have the exposure to normal girls. All they see is insta or tinder and well, i guess it presents a skewed perspective. I try to explain a bit of the women’s pov while im on reddit, i just hope it helps at least some ppl lol.
Respond 2
Here are the general sentiments I’ve gathered. Trying to be unbiased, just repeating what I’ve heard.
Men think Singaporean women are entitled, pampered, choosy & materialistic without a valid reason. They think lots of them have “princess syndrome”. Some also feel that women are too independent and refuse to settle down, which they see as a negative.
Women usually feel that Singaporean men are unromantic, rigid, uncultured. The usual complaints from friends is that they’re very one-note. Can only talk about school/work/NS or football/gaming.
My take? Of course, there might be some truth in these generalisations, but once you form these overarching opinions, you’ll force yourself to see them in everyone. Everyone is a either a GCB or a BBFA. I think people should (try) to let go of these preconceived notions when they meet people, give them a shot.
Respond 3
Both sides like to hiam each other, often relying on stereotypes – ladies are materialistic, always watch Kdrama. Men are superficial, only like to game and watch anime. But I honestly think these are just the unhappy and loud people on the internet, and they just need some attention.
Many of my friends in real life who are average people found love and are happy. Even those who didn’t found love also don’t feel the need to go online and bash the other gender, they choose to be happy in their hobbies and life.
Respond 4
Too sheltered. Too “standard life story”. Too many expectations of what a potential partner should be, but not enough self awareness/knowledge in what they can offer in return. Too much stereotyping. A lack of life experiences beyond what’s just in SG/mixing with locals, which gets painfully obvious if one studied abroad before and came back “home”. Superficial, easily distracted, no intellectual depth. Treats dating and love like ticking off checkboxes on a list, at the end of which you get your standard “happy ending Singaporean couple story”.
All these apply equally for both men and women.