A woman shared how her life has changed ever since she broke up with her man-child boyfriend and started dating a grown, mature man instead.
Here is the story
I started dating my boyfriend a couple months ago. It turned more serious when I had a really bad day at work and then two days later I lost my cat. Both times he showed up for me emotionally and he helped me (even found the cat!)
One of the biggest things I realised is women being sick and tired of cleaning up after their men. I’ve faced this before, and knew that I needed to have this addressed in the beginning of the relationship.
He now does my dishes and makes my bed every time he comes over. Without me asking!! I just look over and the bed is made! Or the trash is taken out! Or my blender is clean!
This is honestly a huge reason why I’m falling for him is that I told him about mental load and he is taking it on for me.
Idk I just wanted to share. I feel like if your partner really wants to be there for you and you communicate what you need from them, then they will do it.
And if you tell them and they either dont start trying, or try for a little bit and then stop, like so many of the posts that I see here, then they are not worth your mental effort and need to be kicked out because they are a manchild not a grown man.
Netizens’ comments
Congratulations! I remember the feeling of joy and freedom in realising that the new guy in my life was actually a whole mature and reasonable adult. It shouldn’t have been so radical as it felt.