I have lived with my BF for 3 years now. When I first stayed the night and he overslept I woke him up. He woke up in a bad mood and after a big fight made it absolutely clear that I should not wake him up even if I knew he would be late to meet the president.
After I calmed down I wrote a “contract” that said I would never wake him up under any circumstance short of an emergency as long as he never blames me for oversleeping. He laughed and signed it. I kept it with my important documents. (Daughter of two lawyers, get everything in writing and don’t sign anything unless you and your lawyer read it are rules I live by)
Fast forward to yesterday, he just started a new job, celebrated the night before playing with some guys online. He had to wake up by 7am.
I woke up at 5am like usual, did all my stuff, by the time it was 7am he didn’t wake up. I left the house at 8.15am and he was still asleep.
When I got back he was there and he was very angry, he started shouting and blamed me for being late, said I should have woken him when I noticed he overslept. All I did was stay silent untill he stopped shouting then showed him the paper he signed. And then I said I never woke you up and I never will, you are an adult and you can set an alarm like the rest of us. Also you being late is a you problem and I have no part in it at all.
Now he says that I am the worse gf in the world and I should know that the old rules do not apply since he no longer works for his friend that was lax with time. I still think I did nothing wrong.
Am i in the wrong here?
Here are what netizens think:
- The guy is 30 years old and unable to wake up for his new job then blames his girlfriend even though it’s HIS responsibility…..talk about a catch.
- sounds like you’re in a bad relationship
- Sounds like he wants to blame-shift at any cost, which is why we’re getting pathetic excuses like “the old rules don’t apply” and “you need to be more psychic.” Without a new contract, he’s still bound by the old one, though it sounds like it may not have specified what an “emergency” means so he may try to say this was. Best to avoid letting someone like him having that out tbh.