My mom is ridiculous, over the years she contributed practically nothing to the family financially, doesn’t have a job and yet she expect my dad to give a monthly allowance, supplementary card and etc, basically covering all her expenses.
She always want things to go her way, she don’t bother to save money & behaves like she’s entitled to all the funds just because she’s married to my dad (she genuinely thinks so because those are the words she said herself)
While on the other hand my dad works hard for the family but still, always getting scolded for the simplest thing like buying just a tad bit too much groceries back home.
and she’s extremely selfish and inconsiderate, she literally lack of self awareness, talk loudly in public, throwing trash out of the car, doing everything her way because ‘that’s the only right way’ and countless. and she will never be in the wrong!
even when i told her she’s being unreasonable she will just ‘so what?’ ‘i’m your mother, you must listen to me no matter what’ ‘you dare go against my words?’ etc.
so how do i deal with a person like this?
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She carried you for 9 months and raised you? Risked her life in the process? I don’t think your father did that? Surely that counts for something. Unless you’re adopted. Or she’s your stepmom. Then i guess… Sure, she sounds a bit obnoxious from the anecdotes you’ve provided…
Maybe you should consider learning to communicate differently and learning how to be persuasive. Maybe you should invest more time to mend the relationship…
I just think its kinda sad cos maybe your mom probably has little or no knowledge of what it takes or how to be aware of her actions or how her actions affect the people around her. A lot of people display arrogant behaviour as a defense mechanism to cope with situations that they cannot control.
But this behaviour is a learned one and can be unlearned with a lot of patience and understanding. Who better to help her become a better person than her own daughter. I mean, if you don’t bother to help her… who will?