My husband doesn’t want our child to call him dad.
My husband (24M), and I (25F) got married almost a year ago. However 6 months ago I found out I was pregnant due to our birth control failing.
We had both wanted children in the future, and this was just a bit sooner than either of us had expected, so I keep the child.
While discussing our future child’s first words; specifically I asked if he thought they would be “dada” or “mama”. This lead to him saying he actually doesn’t want our child to call him dad, because it will make him feel old.
This felt very odd to me. He is responsible for this child being brought into the world, but he wants them to call him by his first name?
When I brought this up he said I have no right to try and dictate, what our child should call him. I am really not understanding this, and when ever I try and talk to him about it he makes me feel like I am the bad guy.
Any advice on where to go from here?
Netizens’ comments
Husband looks like he is going through something deeper.
Surface level response: I will feel old
If that is his true feelings that is ridiculous. He’s 24 years old, having a kid on the early side.
I would want him to reflect if there is more going on here.
Anxiety about parenting? Anxiety about big life change? Things like that. Not “I will feel old if my kid calls me dad.” if that is true jesus, you are in for some rough parenting.