my boyfriend tells me that i look good without makeup and it’s starting to really get on my nerves
i know i look good without makeup. i sometimes go makeup-free and i feel just as pretty when i wear makeup.
but i have acne and i only do that when i dont have bulging bumps all over my face. he knows im insecure about that so i think he says this as a way to help, but he says this every single time he sees me with makeup.
he likes to put his hand on my face and wipe it off and i freak out because he’s putting germs on my face and also making my cystic acne show.
i really dont know how to make him stop without being rude. ive told him that i dont like when he does this, but i know he thinks he’s helping so he does it again.
any advice on what to say to him?
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This is a “doing bad by trying to be good” thing.
Just be honest with him and tell him how you feel, just don’t do it in a way that might make him feel attacked for his past behavior, as I have an inkling he just doesn’t understand entirely.
Makeup to a man is often shown or advertised as “she’s trying to be beautiful”
It took me quite a few years myself to begin to see it as an accessory, rather than whatever else I saw it as, for lack of a better word.
He appreciates your natural beauty, he just doesn’t know you’re trying to accessorize or compliment that with some makeup.