“My boyfriend is a huge fan of buses and can tell what model is the bus by simply listening to the engine. He can even memorise bus plates and sometimes I tell him over the phone the number of the bus I’m taking, and he has the superpower to tell me the exact plate number and bus model of the bus. I suspect he has autism.
Well that’s okay with me.
What’s NOT okay is that whenever we go out, he likes to keep whatever rubbish we created and bring it home to throw! if we ate McDonald’s or KFC outside, he will put all the rubbish in his bag to bring home. He does not allow me to throw away a bag that is not full, so he tries to make it full using whatever rubbish we created outside. the house really stinks because the rotting meat has been in the plastic bag for several days. He also do not want to use the bin as the plastic bag does not fit any bin perfectly, so it is an exposed plastic bag. I have thrown up several times because of the smell and we argue a lot over the smell of the rubbish.
Last but not least, he does not want to hang clothes on any pole to dry as he thinks the poles are dirty from bird shit, dust or other people touching it. So all our wet clothes from the washing machine will be dumped on our bed. Some nights I have to sleep on cold, wet bed because the clothes have not fully dry.
He also does not allow me to sit anywhere whenever I come home from outside. I have to sit on “dirty” chairs and not simply any chair. I cannot sit in the floor too.
I’m not able to break up with him as he would threaten to kill me or my family or himself. He will also make trouble for me at my workplace. I feel so trapped and no one to turn to. I can’t tell my friends or family about this. I’ve turned to AWARE but they can only help people who are married. What should I do? Sometimes I feel like dying to escape from all these misery.”
Here are what netizens think:
He needs professional help.You need someone in the industry to find resources you can turn to.Keep asking around.Keep up the hope.Start by writing down your option on paper and clarity would come.Edit: there is no one agency or organisation that has all the answers. The most important thing is the mindset and not feel trapped.That’s why keep asking around and get options. Only then you can be empowered.Your own well being is important as that would also have an effect on the boyfriend. Whom I guess you also want to be happy. Although it seems like it won’t work out don’t mean both can’t have a happy life aheadEdit 2 threats like killing you or family or himself is constituted as criminal. Calling the police to seek guidance is one way.There are also hotlines to call.1767 samaritans of Singapore1800 777 0000 national anti violence hotlineGet options. Empower yourself. Then pull the trigger and stay the course of action.Lastly. If you have a trusted person. Be it a family member or a friend. Time to confide in them.They might not have the answers but the conversation is important.Societal pressures and norms might prevent you from doing that and that’s why journaling or writing down is like a conversation you have with yourself.Although best to talk with someone and best with a professional. Because professionals are trained listen and give advice best suited to your situationEdit 3I implore you to take the tiniest step today that would safeguard yourself and the ones you love. Have courage. A stranger here is rooting for you.
I dont know why some ppl can find this post amusing. Pls keep all possible evidence of his violent and threatening behaviour( if it is verbal, take a note of date/time/place and content). File a police report, block contacts and end relationship with him immediately. Easier said than done, but for your safety, it has to be done