our relationship has taken work but felt like a dream come true. This has turned Everything on it’s head. He was showing me something in his Photo App, and I noticed a thumbnail that was blury and looked like my body. I asked what it was. He said ‘oh yes, I took a video of us’ and I laughed it off in the moment.
Then my fear responses kicked in and I wanted to vomit. I had a panic attack.
Background: I am a previous victim of SA. He knows this. When confronted about the video, he first said “yes I took a video”. It then turned into “I took the video by accident, because my flashlight was on”. It then turned into “you should be flattered I want a video of my girlfriend, but I guess I’ll just watch other videos instead” and “don’t worry, I won’t ever want to do this again. I don’t even want to do it with you after this”.
I’m so much emotional pain, and suffering EXTREME emotional whiplash as only mere hours ago, our relationship was faultless.
He refused to reassure or comfort me, instead accusing me of painting him to be a predator.
Please help me.
Here are what netizens think:
- Wait until he’s relaxed and take his phone and make sure he doesn’t have more stuff hidden or backed up anywhere. Delete everything of you from his phone..then break up with this trash bag. It’s not hard to not record people without their permission.
- I’m so scared to ever invade his privacy like this. What if there are no more videos? How do I leave when just hours ago I was absolutely in love?
- You aren’t invading his privacy you are protecting yourself. Even if there are no more videos he has at least one that you need to get rid of (really make sure he doesn’t have anything backed up anywhere and make sure to delete the recently deleted folder as well). You were in love with someone that doesn’t exist. He certainly doesn’t love or respect you and it shows.
- He already invaded yours and then tried to gaslight you when you found out. Break up with this guy
- Pack a bag and go to your mom’s. Let her call the police and have him removed. He sounds dangerous.