My bf and I have been tgt for 3 months. I do love him but I have a bad habit of stalking his ex. Every once in a while, I’d go in his ex’s IG to see their history and it kills me every time to find out something new about their past relationship.
I saw that he pampered his ex very much by gifting and bringing her places, while he doesn’t do the same for me.
Recently he introduced me to his computer game and taught me how to play. I was glad I could learn about his hobby and actually even like it as much as he does. But just tonight after randomly visiting his ex’s IG, I realized he also introduced the game to her. In addition, he even made it easier for her to play by buying her gaming gears. Meanwhile for me, he doesn’t help me much, I feel like he introduced it to me so that I won’t bug him while he’s playing.
Yeah ranting here only. I pretend like I don’t know but I cry 50% of the nights. It hurts to know things you consider special with someone are actually not special to them.
Here are what netizens think:
- Stop ruining your own relationship by constantly comparing your relationship with the one he had with his ex. This is an act of self-sabotaging.Put the ex out of your mind, and observe what is it that you really want in the relationship. Do you really want to be gifted and brought to places or is that what you want because of the ex? Do you really enjoy the game that he introduced enough that you really want the gears? Or is it because the ex had them?Know exactly what you want and communicate it to him.
- You’ve only been together for 3 months…how long has he been together with the ex? First thing is you should stop comparing yourself with her. You are a different individual and so is she. He might take time to develop those things for/with you. Just be patient. Develop and grow your relationship without comparing. Focus on yourself and your boyfriend…not the ex….she’s an ex for a reason
- Girl, why you cry? If he did those to you, you can find smth else to do? Like hanging out with your male friends distract yourself away from what he do to his ex gf~As you say ex what~Dont cry lahDont shed a tear for nth better to doJust concentrate on how much you both together the happy timeIf they still want together he wont leave her and together with you arLet those past be past and dont dig what he and his ex do. Cheers
- Is it you curious to know how your bf treats someone he loved so you go look into his past rs. If you feel he doesn’t loves you wholeheartedly, then you staying for?