Stingy bf or greedy gf?
All my life, I’ve always believed in paying for my share of food or fees on dates and I stuck to this principle of mine unless the guy insists on paying and doesn’t back down.
When I met my current boyfriend, he told me he doesn’t like letting girls pay and will pay for everything we eat or do together as long as we’re in a relationship. Of course, I wasn’t comfortable with that so I insisted on paying my share occasionally. 2-3 months into our relationship, we began to go dutch for everything, and even calculate based on what we bought/ordered individually, or we would take turns to pay for meal. e.g he pays for lunch and I’ll pay for dinner regardless of the price difference. I was completely okay with it.
Fast forward years later, we’re still going dutch, and I’m occasionally even paying for his petrol if he fetches me anywhere. Once I didn’t feel like paying for petrol because my finances for that month was a lil tight and he questioned why I didn’t feel like paying. We got into a huge fight.
This guy has got a net worth 40x more than mine. He has a substantial amount of savings 5x more than I do. Plus, he earns 2x my pay. And yet, he is the most stingy guy I’ve ever dated. Even a $5 item can make him think twice, I’ve had to treat him to meals many times because he craved it but wasn’t willing to pay for it.
I began to become unhappy about this situation. Especially after finding out that many of my friends had boyfriends or husbands who would pay their share + fork out more percentage of money for their wedding and house. Mine said we had to fork out 50% each of our wedding, home, renovations, and more.
I struggle to make ends meet most months because I don’t earn much and I have a student debt to pay off. It sucks that as my bf, and as someone with so much money, he isn’t willing to sometimes pay more or pay my share just so that I can have more freedom to enjoy, or a bit of weight lifted off my shoulders. I can barely save each month because of our monthly expenditures + my liabilities.
I’m beyond stressed when I see my bank balance and the crazy amount of money I’ll need for my home in the future. What can I do..? I’ve exhausted all my time working, I’m trying my best to save, but money is just never enough…
Also, am I being greedy for wishing my bf would be willing to spend more on me? Not to buy me gifts but just to bless me by paying my share of things occasionally since he has so much money.