i’ve been with my boyfriend for about 1.5 years now and we initially decided to apply for the May bto but there weren’t any suitable/preferred locations we wanted so we skipped that period. Now we’re eyeing on the Aug bto instead but recently, we’ve been arguing a whole lot more. although all are resolved in the end (we are not the kind to sweep things under the carpet) and we are still each other’s best friend and other half, it still makes me think what will happen if we did end up applying for the may bto and IFFF we rly got it in the end and ended up arguing at almost everything.
Actually both of us are very sure about each other and we have complete trust between us. we know we definitely see each other in both our future despite being together for just less than 2 years. but the recent arguments kind of make me insecure for the future.
As much as i don’t want to admit it, i’m not sure if that mere 1.5 years is the reason for my doubts because i suppose most couples usually date for a longer period of time before applying for bto, right..? so part of me is rly afraid for the uncertainties that the future may bring but idk why i’m feeling this way when i’ve already made my decision to marry this man and have him with me for the rest of my life.
Here are what netizens think:
- Usually such judgements are wrong. Esp those ” i made up my mind i want to be with him rest of my life, or i am sure he is the one” Especially in a particular gender.Reason is u simple. U cant see into the future
- It’s normal to feel uncertain for a 1.5 years relationship as it’s really quite a short time to know someone well. By that I mean have you seen them at their worst and would still CHOOSE TO look past all their flaws. Some relationships get stronger after marriage for years, despite the dating period being short. Others date for years, get married and divorce almost immediately. You can’t control or predict the future, but you can do a mental assessment now based on good observations of each other.
- i mean every couple would have their own disagreements etc, but whats most important is if you & your partner is willing to sit down & compromise to each other. Like talk things out between each other & see whats the issue. Personally , i feel 1.5 years is quite fast to apply bto! But hey, i also have peers around me only 1 year apply BTO already when they dont have financial stability.Â
- The period doesn’t matter, as long as both agree and feel comfortable to try. We started balloting for a flat after dating for 6 months. I was the one who suggested it.