My (21F) boyfriend (22M) and I went out to dinner with his best friend, he invited us, to an expensive steakhouse.
I do not like steak but went because it’s his best friend. He told me his friend wanted to treat him to dinner since he (his friend) got a big sale but wouldn’t pay for me.
I felt awkward at first but let it go since my boyfriend said he would pay for me since his friend payed for him.
When we get there his friend said no offense but im not paying for you. It was extremely awkward and felt like a diss to me since he was paying for himself, his girlfriend, and my boyfriend. I paid the tip as well.
I told my boyfriend that made me so uncomfortable because he kept joking about how he wasn’t paying for me and when we explained the check to the waitress she was confused and his friend said, “there’s two couples here she must be confused why you’re paying for yourself haha.” It felt like a diss to me.
I told my boyfriend the next day it made me uncomfortable and felt like a diss to me as his girlfriend. He said well its because I’m not family yet.
So you say you love me but I’m not family? Idk but I was taught and have seen when someone invites people out to a celebratory dinner of their success of wealth they normally pay for the whole table.
Idk for me it was rude of him to exclude me then joke about it and be like “no offense.”
I ordered the cheapest thing on the menu because I don’t like that type of food.
I’m just feeling rejected and annoyed as my boyfriend didn’t really defend my feelings, and just said “well you’re not family yet.”