WIFE FOUND OUT HUSBAND TOOK REVEALING PHOTOS OF HER IN SLEEP

For context, my husband and I got into a very heated argument about something unrelated last night. He was getting ready for work this morning when he left his phone in the bathroom unattended.

Mind you, we have each others passwords and the rule is technically that we can look at each other’s phone whenever, no questions asked. I was looking through the camera roll and found some very revealing photos and a video of me, taken while I was asleep & nude.

There were no private parts shown in the pictures/video, just my thighs and stomach, but it’s obvious I’m naked. I do not delete the pictures at this point. I walk into our room where he is getting ready and carefully state that I found the photos, without lashing, as to not escalate things further given our bad argument from the previous night.

He immediately got defensive and made a comment along the lines of “what I was doing on his phone anyways?!” I walked away & start getting in the shower, and he follows me and says “Here I’m deleting them, see!” and shows me that he deletes it from his camera roll and his recently deleted folder.

While I’m showering, my husband comes back into the bathroom to say (with a frustrated tone) that he only took the pictures because he’d had an edible (we both had that night I remember, so this is true) and I had declined his invitation to physical intimacy so he was very H and was using the pictures to jerk off while I was asleep. (This also checks out as I have consensually given him pictures on different occasions for this reason.)

I returned to the room a few minutes later after showering and start getting ready myself. I was upset upon finding the photos and then being made to feel bad about my discovery so I silently started crying.

My husband sees this and frustratingly inquires but I decline to really elaborate because to me it’s obvious and didn’t feel like explaining in the moment. He leaves for work and calls me a few minutes after leaving and says the reason why he acted so defensively when I brought up my discovery of the photos/video is because “I looked like I wanted to argue.” (We were both on edge from the night before.)

It must have been the look on my face because I know I approached it very calmly. Anyways, I kind of feel like the AH for bringing it up while we were so on edge already and when I know he doesn’t have malicious intent, he just wanted to look at something that wasn’t P videos. It just felt icky that I was completely unaware and would have never known had I not found the video/pictures on my own accord.

What do i do now?