Great woman (39F) I’ve (31M) been dating for 3 months just told me she has a kid. It’s a dealbreaker for me but I don’t know how to end things without hurting her.
I started dating a woman about 3 months ago. We met on a dating app and immediately hit it off. We got along great and seemed to be a good match for each other.
We have fun and have been spending a lot of time together the past few months. Everything seemed great and I definitely saw something long term with her.
But the last time we met up, she casually brought up in a conversation that she has a 4 year old son. She had never mentioned him previously so I was pretty stunned about it.
I didn’t make it seem like a big deal but it is definitely a dealbreaker for me. I would have not dated her if I knew about this from the start.
I definitely want a child of my own in the near future and want to have a family. But I have no desire what so ever to be involved in the life of a child that isn’t mine.
So for me, there is no way to continue this relationship. But I’m just not sure how to end things properly .
The last thing I want to do is hurt her feelings and make it seem like she is the problem. I no way want to hurt her or make her feel bad about anything. I’m just not sure how to go about it. How do you guys recommend I end things amicably without hurting her feelings?