I’m 25F, dating a foreign guy who is 3 years older for about a year now. He is great – tall, handsome, works out reguarly, takes care of me, is attentive, great career and awesome in bed.
He is literally the man of my dreams… except for one aspect.
THE CORNERS OF HIS HOUSE HAVE A LOT OF SPIDERS AND THEIR COBWEBS AND I’M AFRAID OF SPIDERS AF. Like deathly afraid – will jump up, shriek, and run.
My family has always been helping kill them… and from young till now, I have never managed to kill one myself. The last time I found one in my room and no one was around, I ran out of the house until my brother came back to kill it.
Where he is from and raised, he doesn’t care about animals/insects and respects them – only killing them when truly necessary if they are pests (such as cockroaches, flies and mosquitoes).
Other insects he will catch and release. He allows spiders to stay in the house as he believes they will keep mosquitoes and flies away by eating them.
So now I’m at a conundrum…he knows I’m afraid of spiders and has been trying to convince me that they are good but I can’t…at the same time he won’t clear the spiders as he says without them, there were a lot of mosquitoes…
It seems kinda lame but our relationship is now at an impasse cause of…spiders. A bit desperate for some advice!