There’s this guy friend whom I’ve only initially had platonic feelings for…even when I found out that he likes me (he didn’t say it to me exactly but from sources, I’m about 80% sure) because I had a crush on someone else. As I spent less time with my crush and somehow, because of our circle of friends, spent more time with this guy friend, I find myself getting affected by him.
Right now, I’m confused because I thought I really liked my crush but now I feel that I might be developing feelings for my guy friend instead. This unsettles me a little because I feel like I’m not ‘loyal’ to my feelings. Also, I know that my guy friend has feelings for me because sometimes he would do some really ballsy things when he’s a really shy person.
But now that I can see him being more than just a friend, I wish he could be more confident about his advances. He’s not being direct or forward and I have a feeling this is because he believes that I might have something going on with my crush (he’s seen us together alone on occasion).
As I look back, I realised that he has always been supportive of me (he comes for my performances, etc) when I never gave him much thought. Because of that, I’m open to the possibility of us becoming more than friends. The problem is…what if I’m mistaken about his feelings since he never actually confessed?
What if I’m mistaken about my own feelings because I initially had feelings for someone else? I know for sure he is misunderstanding my relationship with my crush but I don’t know how else to clear it up other than for him to confess and bring it up. Thoughts?
Source:Nuswhisper