I (29f) gave birth two weeks ago. I had a relatively easy pregnancy and was really looking forward to being a mother.
But now that the baby is actually here I am wondering if I am actually cut out for this. I am stuck in an endless sleepless cycle of feeding, cleaning and praying my baby sleeps.
When people jokingly told me gear up for the fourth trimester, I never thought it would be this difficult.
Its not like the responsibility ends at sometime during the day and I can start next day again. It’s like being stuck in a job I hate,I am not allowed to quit, and there is no end in sight.
I love my kid and hate myself for this thoughts but I need to say this somewhere.
while I understand how incredibly ungrateful I sound, I need to get this off my chest.Sharing this with family is not an option.
Netizens’ comments
- After the 6-8 week mark that’s when it gets better. Then when they’re older and doing their own thing and you can hang out and go out places with them it’s the best. Def lean on family and friends to give you a break every now and then. Don’t be a martyr.
- I think I cried for 3 weeks straight after my child was born. It was overwhelming thinking I was responsible for this little one’s life for the rest of my life. My baby is 22 now and I’d do it all over again. It’s normal, and it gets better as you get more comfortable with being a mom. Big hugs!
- I just want to say that what you’re feeling is 100% normal. Please accept any help you’re offered and don’t be shy about asking for more.