I have this friend whom I met at a common hobby chatgroup. We were quite close in the chat and often do mini meetups with other close members. Then one day after he knew I was looking a for a job, he intro me to his company which I was eventually accepted. He claimed he pulled some strings to let me get thru and I was grateful of it.
After I joined the company, I realised that he wasn’t well liked by his colleagues and there seem to be some politics among his peers. I did not bother much as I was new and did my job.
Fast forward 3 years in the company, I had a great time and the colleagues actually guided me and I learn the ropes from them. I got promoted too and was feeling great. In this 3 years I sort of understand the dynamics of the team and also knew why my friend is an outcast.
He is basically a slacker, has attitude issues and the one that instigated many unpleasant incidents in office. Basically he is the real shet stirrer. Usually I ignore his issues or politics but I do admit it’s getting on my nerves, especially when it affect workloads that was passed to me. Out of goodwill from hid friendship I will close one eye.
Recently he got into some issues with the customer and the customer blew up the issue to the bosses. There was an inquiry going and I was interviewed. I gave my feedback on him but also put in some good words for him. In the end he was reprimanded and given a stern warning. But last week he resigned.
This is were the problem started. He called me out as an ungrateful asshole. Claiming that he took care of me and yet I snitched on him, sell out and threw him under the bus. I told him it was not true and I tried to put good words for him but he claimed he “had proof” that I gave him a bad review. What’s worst, he is now sprouting nonsense in the chat and some of the members seemed to side him. I have some members PMing me to ask what happened. So basically he brought his shet stirring to our chat group
So tell me, am I wrong and ungrateful to him? Yes he brought me in but I worked my way up without him. Am I supposed to be indebted to him eternally?