I earn lesser, work harder, but still get blamed for wife’s extravagant expenses
My wife and I have been married for about 5 years now. I earn slightly lesser than her. About 35% lesser give or take.
It wasnt an issue and she is the one handling the finance as I thought she is better at it than I am. I basically only take transportation, lunch and CC bill and the rest pass to her. My cc is use for household needs.
She constantly say we are in debt and every single month go way off our budget and blames me for not earning enough which i make up for by literally doing ALL the household chores and cook or buy dinner. Im constantly the last person to eat, bath and sleep and the first to wake up. I iron my kid’s sch uniform, feed her, make her milk, brush her teeth, read her bedtime story while my wife does the toilet stuff. I work about 2-3 hours longer than she does. She constantly complain shes tired even on days that she doesnt work and all she did was send my kid to school.
We basically took loan or installment to clear cc bill and somehow its my fault.
Recently i did some calculation and realise that my pay covers all our expenses including our crazy ass expensive insurance that she bought and refuse to downgrade.
She has been buying things in bulk as its cheaper in long run but it burst our monthly budget.(eg buying 400+ worth of milk when we can afford only buy 1 or 2 can a month given our lifestyle). She also a heavy grab user.
Its such purchases that put us in debt and somehow its my fault. And sometime when we want to get something we want like a new piece of furniture and recreation item, i would ask her if we can afford it since she is handling the finance and she say can. And when its time to pay the bills, its my fault again.
Unlike me, when i use cc to pay something, i set the cash aside to pay for it at the end of the month(cc has good rebates). All these while i thought she did the same.
I basically have no money apart from transportation and lunch money. And when i dont eat, i save that money until i have enough to buy something i want.(my lunch money is barely $100 per month). When i buy it, i get scolded for buying things for myself rather than give the family.
We do set a budget on things each month including outings expenses. On paper, it should be more than enough and even have leftover for saving. But she keep buying bulks, buying presents for my kid’s classmate like childrens day, christmas, cny etc, when buying from redmart, alot of unnecessary things like snacks or buying 10 packet of detergent cause cheaper.
I’m tired. Extremely.