I (22f) have been with my gf (25f) for just over 4 years now. Romantically we’ve been very close but physically it’s been somewhat frustrating.
She asked to open up the relationship last year and I reluctantly agreed -foolishly – because I wanted her to be happy. My only stipulation was that we have open and honest communication.
Just last week I realized something she said didn’t add up so I did a little digging and find that she’s been lying about some big things for at least a year. She’s been going out with people a lot more than I was aware, and she F one of my friends and told our friend group to keep it from me.
I asked her if there was anything she was keeping from me and she denied anything, until I brought up the pieces of evidence one by one. I told her that this broke my trust and I didn’t think I could be with her anymore.
She took that really really hard and is begging for me to give her another chance, saying she’ll do anything to try and earn my trust back.
I don’t have any parents or family to talk to about this… I feel so lost. I guess it’s not technically cheating because we were in an open relationship, but she lied to me and that feels serious… I don’t want to hurt her and I do love her a lot but I don’t know if we can fix our underlying issues without trust now. I’m just so conflicted