I’m(M25) worried about my girlfriends(F25) relationship with her new male friend as I’ve just been told by her other two friends that this guy told one of them that he’s taking my girlfriend on a date and intends to sleep with her.
We’ve been together for five years and she is doing her post grad. This guy is someone on her course. I’ve known that they have become pretty good friends but I’ve always trusted her so it’s been fine. Two other people on her course are also a couple and I’ve become quite friendly with them because the four of us hang out as couples.
The guy in the couple is also apparently close enough with the guy in question and he told him that my girlfriend finally agreed to go out with him and that he’s going to shag her. He had no other real details as he said he didn’t want to know and didn’t want to be involved but I’m not sure if I believe him. I get the impression that he didn’t want to be talking to me about this but he probably told his girlfriend and she was making him tell me something at least.
He admitted that he was told this over a week ago so I’m terrified that if this is true it might have already happened. My girlfriend never mentioned hanging out with anybody but I’m working full time during the week and she’s not in school every day so it could have happened and Id never know.
I don’t really have any other friends here so I don’t know who to talk to. The advice I’m looking for is what is the best way to approach this? I don’t want to accuse my girlfriend of anything as this could all be nonsense or a misunderstanding and just because this guy has said he’s going to shag her doesn’t mean he gets too.
The only thing is if she agreed to hang out with him and it’s innocent on her part she would have told me. I’m not sure what to do? I asked the female friend if she would be open to talking to her and seeing if she tells her anything and she said she would but Id be putting her in a shit position and thats not fair. She’s already stuck her neck out for me by telling me this. I’d be grateful for any advice? Thanks.