My (33f) husband (32m) wants to go to his ex-girlfriends (30s,f) wedding
My husband Mark and I have been married for 16 months and together for 3 years. 2 years before he was with me, he was with Amanda. Prior to me she was definitely the love of his life, they were together for 8 years and lived together. She left him and though I don’t know her side of the story at all, Mark says it’s because she wasn’t ready to settle down and didn’t want the traditional marriage and kids, and he did.
When we met he was definitely still not 100% over Amanda and I think deep down imagined they might still get back together. They didn’t maintain a friendship as far as I’m aware until our wedding. She posted congratulations on his Instagram posts of the day and they DMed back and forth about the wedding and general life stuff. Every now and again they catch up on social/text and I don’t think there’s anything inappropriate going on but it makes me a little uncomfortable.
However a couple of months back Amanda got engaged. Mark was pretty upset, he didn’t talk about it much but I wonder if it was because she’s now ready to settle down in a way she wasn’t when she was with him. He was pretty down for a couple of weeks, I didn’t push it but I did try and talk to him about it which he shut down.
Now I just found out that he has an invite to Amanda’s wedding in March. He doesn’t have a plus one, but he still really wants to go. He didn’t ask me if he could, he just told me.
I told him I felt weird about him going, especially alone and especially given how much he loved her, but he says it’s all in the past and nothing is happening so it shouldn’t matter. I get that but I feel really odd about him going to his exes wedding – I’m sure it would’ve been them getting married if she’d have been in the right place at the time. What do I do?