I (18f) have been arguing with my stepmother (37f) a lot. We have never gotten along as she has extreme anger issues and never wanted to be a step-parent. She has recently gotten pregnant with her third child which I openly admit being against.
However, I support their decision to have more kids as it doesn’t really affect me and Step mum has said that I’m not to be involved in the child’s life. Our most recent argument however has made me furious.
I’ve recently accepted a full-time position at the same workplace as my father. We both start and finish at the same time so he gives me lifts. I should mention that step mum won’t let me get my license as getting my father to teach me is “a waste of his time”. So before this, I would just walk about an hour to our work.
When coming home this afternoon my step mum burst out yelling about how I’m taking my dad away from her. I found out my dad actually starts 30 minutes after I do and has been leaving with me because he doesn’t want me walking to work at a dangerous time (we live in Geylang. I start work at 5am). Obviously, I didn’t know and thanked him for doing that. If I knew I would of been shouting his morning coffee as payment.
This made her even more furious that I didn’t agree to walk. She continued to say how much of a disappointment I am and no wonder I’m larger than her even though she was pregnant. She insults me for a while before I couldn’t take anymore and walked out of the house. I am currently at my boyfriends house calming down.
I think this is where I will be the asshole in the situation. Step mum works at the same job just at the checkouts late at night (11pm) for shorter hours. Boyfriend’s mum suggests telling her that I’m willing to walk to and from work if she will walk home at night instead of getting my father to pick her up.
At first I was really into the idea. She’s always made me walk to places for the exercise while she gets as many free rides as she wants and it’s only 2 days a week. However she is halfway through pregnancy and I don’t want it to get hurt as it is an hour walk mostly uphill in an area known for being unsafe. Not to mention it could just cause more of an argument but at this point I’ve tried every other way to get her to stop besides giving her the same attitude back.