My (30f) boyfriend (27m) and I have been together for almost 5 years. We’re very happy, get along amazingly and we’re very much in love.
But he still doesn’t want to move in together and when I ask him when he’ll be ready, he just says he doesn’t know.
He’s got a completely packed schedule during the week. There’s barely 1 minute each day where he’s free. He says he gets pissed about how limited his time is and fears he’ll get annoyed sharing a space which may limit his time more (we might often get caught up talking/hanging out if we’re living together).
He says he wants to move in together someday. He’s assured me he also wants to get married and have kids — we’ve even talked about what we want to name our kids.
Being an almost 31 year old woman, I’m worried about the future. I worry he might be one of those people who never fully commits to big things like this and if I keep waiting for him to get ready to take this next step, it might be too late and the egg shop will have closed its doors for good.
Has anyone experienced something similar and have advice like “if he’s still not ready after all this time, he’ll never be” or “his excuse is valid, just give him time to feel ready?”
This guy is my best friend and the thought of leaving him makes me sick to my stomach especially when everything is otherwise perfect but if this is going to have a negative long term impact on my life, I probably should leave. Just need and outsiders perspective.