I have no idea how to go about dating. I keep on getting the advice that if I work on myself, then I will find the a good partner.
I find my life pretty good on its own. My pay is average but is very meaningful. I have high goals which are not monetary-based but more on the impact I can create on people’s lives.
I have a couple of hobbies like learning spanish, fishing, etc.
I do have great friends and we hang out frequently despite graduating a while back.
I think I am generally a good person but not perfect, I mean no one is lol. I do try to work on myself.
However, all of these are useless in dating. No one cares if I knew Spanish or if I caught massive fishes before. I think it doesnt matter if I am good person sometimes. Lol, I saw one of the holiest girl get together with the well known (but good looking) cheater friend. Honestly, I dont even know what they care sometimes.
I am not your traditional hunk but I am fit (running, badminton, basketball, etc). I am not exactly handsome but I do my best to dress well.
I dont exactly know what else to do. I have watched dumb youtube videos on flirting or playing the “game”. Nothing seems to be working. Worst of all, I dont even feel like I am myself.
I tried being myself and being authentic but it gets me nowhere either. It is like a lot of girls dont even consider me as a possible partner.
The worst advice was to wait passively to meet the right one. It was the worst advice because it was just absolutely stagnant. At least, while trying, I was at least getting to meet girls.
Already tried online dating, joining interest groups, social event… Same results. I am not in their considerations as a partner.
Do I need to be rich and/or handsome? It is like nothing makes sense to me anymore.
Any advice on what to do?