I lied to my wife about going to a strip club with her brother.
Context
I went on a golfing trip with my BIL. My wife was already upset about me being away from the house for 4 days but she eventually caved and was supportive of the trip.
When we get to our destination, I find out that a group of friends are also in the same location to play golf. We play our first 2 rounds and decide we’ll meet up at the bar after our game.
In the Uber to the bar I realize my phone battery is low. No worries, I brought my charger. I ask the Uber driver to plug it in and away we go.
At this point I had talked to my wife and vaguely told her the plans. After we get to the bar I realize the phone wasn’t charging and I’m at <10%. I make the decision to turn my phone off so I have some power for an Uber ride home.
After a few drinks, my friends decide they want to head to a strip club. I’m not comfortable in strip clubs and I generally end up having a few too many drinks at the bar trying to calm my nerves so, I’m hesitant to go.
But, my BIL is onboard. I reluctantly make the trip and proceed to watch basketball at the bar with one of my friends and my BIL enjoys his time with the strippers etc.
When it’s time to leave, I try to turn on my phone and the battery is dead and so I could not contact my wife or even book an Uber so I had to go and withdraw money from the ATM outside the strip club and then hail a taxi.
When we get home and I plug my phone in, I’m greeted by a series of pissed off texts from my wife including: “Are you seriously at a strip club???!!”
I panicked. I wasn’t afraid to tell her where I was because she knows I’m awkward in these situations and keep to myself. I’m just bad at saying no to friends who make poor life decisions apparently.
Had to lie about where I was because her brother was with us
But, I was afraid to admit to where we were because her brother was with us along with some friends whose wives hang out with my wife.
So, I lied that I was not there because of her brother.
Turns out my wife went and checked our bank account and then Google searched the address of the ATM which confirmed that I am at a strip club and it kinda pissed me off because of the great lengths she went to discover that I am at a strip club when she should have known that wherever I was I would have
I reached home (2 days later) and arrived at 2am. Naturally, my pillow was laid out on the living room sofa.
She woke up, went to work, said goodbye to our daughter and walked out the door. We have hardly spoken since the incident.
We’ve been together for almost 20 years and married for 9. We have a great relationship and built up years of a trustworthy marriage and I’m afraid I just destroyed everything by trying to protect her brother and reacting in a fit of rage.