Married for close to 4 years and I’m in my mid thirties this year. Long story short, parents in law are anxious and are always asking when we are gonna have a child.
Well I thought I’ll probably have one and really did try straight after getting married but so far that ain’t working out even tho my partner and I have gone for tests and we are fertile.
Parents aside, I realise my desire for having a child is decreasing as I age? The same goes for my partner. Not sure if I’ll regret not having tried for one harder, esp since I’m alr in my mid 30s.
Just wanna know are there couples here who did not regret choosing to be child free? Or those that have kids but heavily regret it? What are your thoughts?
My reasons on why I’m preferring to be child free (not sure if this is relevant but as you can see from my posts, I’m not a very optimistic person lol)
- kids are generally gonna have it hard in SG (be it mental health or studies)
- ppl are quite fked up in our society, endless Karens and self entitled people are aplenty, so why bring kids into such a terrible society?
- it costs so much to have a kid
- too much sacrifice in terms of personal time ( I highly value my me-time and need hours of it daily)
- never ending competition for kids and parents alike (always have to give them the best if not you’re shitty parents)
List goes on… And my reasons for having one? 2 words lol: family warmth. But this is not guaranteed neither will it be warm given our current societal trends lol.
So I guess maybe I’m seeking some sort of validation in case I regret not having kids now.. what are your thoughts?