My 24M boyfriend is no longer attracted to me (23F) after a year of dating
yesterday my bf started sending me links to female genital tightening exercises and it isn’t the first time he’s subtly made comments about my body like sending me gym exercises or telling me my chest look nicer/perkier when I’m stretching.
after a long, arduous conversation, he basically told me he still loves me but does not have desire for me anymore despite nothing changing about me since beginning our relationship a year ago.
he told me I am the “loosest” girl he’s ever slept with and he thinks that’s why he often has difficulty getting/maintaining a full hard on which he claims was a problem he never experienced before me.
I am exactly the same height/weight as I was when we started dating and live an overall healthy lifestyle.
He was unable to pinpoint anything about me he didn’t like aside from physical features he says he does like but he’s allowed to have other preferences for since “nobody’s perfect,” however all the physical preferences seem to match those of his ex and not me.
we are planning to move in together in July but I don’t know how I’m going to mentally get past him essentially blaming me for the root of any dysfunction he has and comparing me to his ex physically and in bed possibly without realizing.
I do love him and want for this to work out and believe he does love and care for me too, I just don’t know what to do from here. he waited until a year into our relationship to bring up things that have been allegedly bothering him since we first started dating and I am still unsure why he chose to get involved in a relationship with me if he felt this way all along, so any advice or words of wisdom is appreciated.
Netizens’ comments
- Most importantly, don’t move in with him. Also, end the relationship and find someone who won’t be manipulative. I’m sorry you’re going through this, I promise you it’s not normal and you’ll find someone who won’t say those things to you.
- I’d break up with him if it were me. He can move in with his imaginary girlfriend he creates in his head.
- He will miss you only after you’re gone! Life’s too short to waste on these controlling types. Go out and live your best life and let him go find his pleasures in one of those silicone toys!!! Let us know how that conversation goes with him.
- You should not move in with him. He didn’t just bring up a problem in your relationship, he told you you’re not good enough and he wants you to not only change with exercise but also get surgery. He chose to bring it up in a way to tear you down and destroy your self-confidence.