My wife(35F) told me (30M) that she doesn’t want to work and only wants to travel on my pay
My wife and I have been together for 8 years now. We don’t have any kids and have both worked for the majority of the time being together.
My current job has me travel a lot for work, however it does pay well and I can manage to pay for a majority of our expenses. My wife has been working part time and pursuing her degree at the same time and is soon to graduate school.
My wife and I were discussing our plans for when she graduates and how that lines up with my work schedule and our plan to move in 2024, I informed her that id be flying out for two months for work(Jan-Feb) and that it wouldn’t make sense for her to move with me for those two months of work as once I’m done I’d return back to our new home.
I suggested to her that she stay with our family while I’m away and save up money.
To which she informed me that she didn’t want to work and that she’d rather go travel with her Dad who’s retired. She wants to use the extra money we have to travel the country…
She said that since I’ll be traveling a lot next year for work (about 1 month trips at a time) that she’d rather just have me pay for her to travel and vacation with her dad instead of “saving for a home you won’t even be here to live in with me”. She also is telling me she shouldn’t have to work anyway because she “wouldn’t make any money”.
I told her it’s unfair for me to have to pay for everything and that even though I’m “traveling” it’s not to a vacation resort, I’m actually busy working, not having fun on a job site.
I’m just frustrated because somehow I’m The bad guy for suggesting she just get a part time job somewhere and save up for a month and then use that money strictly for traveling the next month. Just trying to use the extra money we would have to save up for a home…
Is there anyway to go about this situation?