We hang out once a week on sat & he eats at home on other days with his mom, which I don’t really mind because we can call and text.
BUT sometimes on sat he will at times ditch me 30 minutes before our scheduled time because his mom wants to have lunch together.
His mom accompanies him to EVERY doctor & dental appointment. Guess what? It’s always on sat (I don’t know whether it’s coincidental or what). I don’t even know what time I’m meeting him and he always have his meals with her so I’m always eating alone
i felt uncomfortable deep down but I try very hard to be understanding … I mean, logically speaking, we are just his girlfriend (not his wife right?) and as compared to his mom who has brought him up for so long we should learn how to respect and give in. Also I don’t want to make things difficult for my bf.
Not too sure about your case though, my advice is that you need to think through , is he the only son? Is his mom a single mom? Etc. in my case I don’t know why his mom is so clingy because he has 4 other siblings (3 guy 1 girl) and he’s the 3rd in line. I wonder if his mom treats the rest the same as well? Or maybe because I’m from a single family (no mom) so I don’t understand that feeling? Haha
For the time being, I am trying to adopt a positive mindset. I feel that instead of being angry that your bf does this, why not be filial to his mother together? (Unless his mom really hates you la..then can’t be helped) if you are going to marry him in the long run then you have to try to get used to his family culture. From there, I think (hope) that he will appreciate your actions, and from there you can try to talk to him about how you actually feel and work things out together, instead of just telling him that “please accommodate to my needs”. Sometimes we really need to see from both sides of the story.
Nothing wrong with being a mommy boy and loving you at the same time
All the best to you!
Here are what netizens think:
- If you do not feel comfortable dating a mummy’s boy, leave him. Some women would love it since they wouldn’t have to spend so much time attending to the man so that they have free time to do their own stuff.
- I guess his mom is working and only available on sat, so arrange appt only sat. I have a Malay friend she will accompany his son for his medical, dental appt, etc. even though he is 29, maybe is the close knitted family culture. If you feel that you cannot adapt to this kind of culture better quit now, because it is very powerful and you will feel uncomfortable and lonely.
- Imagine if u are the mommy, what u think? If u love him and he has not been bad to u, why u want calculate all these? U should appreciate that he is a filial son. Unless u are the new era sg girl, must have privacy, cannot go to in law house… dislike mom in law etc.. then u find those who are not filial or no family