My boyfriend (M22) won’t let me (F21) play games with other guys
My boyfriend is a gamer and I was influenced by him. Last year, I asked my dad to buy me a PC just so I can play with him and I got hooked after a while.
My boyfriend is the jealous type since then and he won’t let other guys get too close with me.
There’s even one time where he asked me to unfriend the strangers I met online after learning that I’ve been playing with this group of people for like 3 nights in a row.
I’m fine with that. We recently got back together and it’s really hard for us right now to reconnect since he learned that his online friend flirted with me during our breakup.
Recently, I have been playing with my new friends which are guys and my boyfriend got mad at me for it. He told me that he still have trust issues and that I am not allowed to play without him unless it’s a girl I am playing with.
He told me that the only guy I can play games with should be him. I got mad and told him that it is unfair for me since I don’t wanna play alone since it’s more fun to play when there’s other people around.
Are my feelings valid?
Netizens’ comments
- You’re not a child and he’s not your dad. He cannot tell you what to do. Don’t let any boy do that. His jealousy is his problem to manage, not yours. This is not the guy for you.
- As always, there is no such thing as “my partner won’t let me.” You are not a prisoner and he is not a warden.
Have some self respect and don’t date a man who tries to tell you what you can or cannot do. - Your feelings are valid and that’s a huge red flag.
What’s his reasoning? Is he worried you’re cheating? Then he doesn’t trust you and he’s going to make you jump through a lot of hoops to earn his trust which he’ll always withhold while making you miserable.
Is he worried they’ll hit on you? Not your fault, but you’re capable of dealing with that and men are capable of exercising some basic self restraint.
To be honest, this post is a good argument for breaking up with him. - Drop him. Just drop him. Who you game with doesn’t matter. and trying to control that is insane. Run away. Far away.