How do I nicely reject ppl from coming to my house?
Recently moved to my bto. It’s a 4rm, the living room isn’t big. My older bro and sis have been telling me it’s very small, kept asking me why I buy only 4rm. They each stay in a resale 5rm executive or 5A whatever.
Last week I went to my husband’s friend’s house warming. We are quite close to the whole group, about 12 of them. They said next gathering should be at our place, I told them our house too small to host, but they insisted to come visit.
My and husband’s parents, siblings, aunts etc have also been asking when are we having house warming. Arghh.
I know my house is small. I don’t want to invite ppl over and be subjected to their scrutiny and judgement, be it imaginary or real. I also don’t like to host gatherings or hang out at homes.
How do I reject everyone nicely? Do I pretend say okok and just never invite them?
Netizens’ comments
- Just tell them you don’t prefer to host guests in your place ? Why even need to provide a reason ? No is no, don’t want is don’t want. It’s time for you to be an adult and learn to define your boundaries.
Another thing you also need to learn is to not care too much on other people opinions. Why let their opinions live rent-free in your head when there are better things in life to enjoy. - Taichiiiiii…. say haven’t unpack… got new paint smell, pet anyhow pee, very messy, not accessible, husband turned living room into gym etc. keep anyhow say excuse until People give up. Or say people’s house nicer.
But another perspective is maybe they also sick of people coming to their house.. maybe can suggest meeting at restaurants instead.. Good what nobody need to clean up. Eat finish just leave… - It seems that your sibling’s comments are the ones that have been affecting you the most to be honest, hence your reluctance to host. Your friends probably don’t care how big or small your house is. Speaking from experience going to single friends with small condo houses(which are smaller than BTO btw). We just want to hang out for a gathering, who cares what people say.
- Had a house warming of 20 in my 4 room flat. Really just boils down to whether you really like the people you are inviting. If you are hesitating, take the opportunity to dig deep and ask yourself why. The rest just don’t reply.
Congrats on crossing such a huge milestone in life and welcome to adulthood OP!