Kicking my parents out of my house after they never showed any concern for me?
I have had a rocky relationship with my parents for as long as I can remember. They always prioritized their work and social lives over me and my siblings. As a result, I had to become independent at an early age.
A few years ago, I managed to buy my own house and establish a successful career. However, my parents fell on hard times, losing their jobs and subsequently their house. Feeling some sense of duty, I let them move into my house, thinking they might have changed.
They’ve been living with me for two years now, rent-free. They didn’t contribute to any of the bills or housework, and they showed little interest in looking for jobs or becoming independent again.
It felt just like my childhood, with them taking for granted everything I provided.
Recently, after a particularly harsh argument about their lack of contribution, I asked them to leave my house. I told them that they had six weeks to find a new place.
They’re upset and calling me ungrateful, reminding me of how they raised me. Some family members are siding with them, saying I’m being too harsh.
But I feel like I’ve been more than patient and accommodating, given our history. They’ve shown no appreciation or reciprocation of the care I’ve extended to them.
Netizens’ comments
- It drives me wild to see how many parents think their kids owe them anything in thanks for raising them. They chose to have kids and take on that responsibility.
Don’t fall for that BS. They’re grasping at pity-party straws now that they realize they went too far. - Good for you for standing up for yourself. People like that will always try to play the victim – “how could you treat us like this after everything we’ve done for you?” because they’re narcissists. Don’t play into it.
- I think the response is “yes, you raised me to be independent through your chronic narcissism and emotional neglect. So I’m encouraging that same independence by kicking you out”
- They did not raise you. They let you raise yourself but even if they had, that is their job as a parent who chose to have a child/ren.