Want to ask everyone here on your thoughts of the “modern dating” scene?
I’m in my mid 30s, female, and using dating apps since last year. The apps that I use are supposed to be the more “legit” ones.
Putting scammers aside, I’ve met guys who only want fwb/open relationships etc.. Some are upfront and those are appreciated so I can be upfront and reject too.
Yet there are some who only wants a purely physical relationship and they lead you into thinking they want a commitment.
I recently met a guy who I really thought was someone special and we could connect. There was some misunderstanding, and then his attitude changed. I wanted to work things out together with him and tried my best but seems like I pushed him away even more. He ended up ghosting me.
It seems like dating is so shallow now and people don’t bail at the first tiny sign of anything that they don’t like instead of trying to work things out together.
The mentality of “this person doesn’t work.. I’ll go find someone else.. there’s other options on the app.” And by bailing, they don’t even say anything, they just ghost or they breadcrumb…? (I’m learning so many new terms from dating nowadays)
I know I sound desperate. I also know I’m not perfect, maybe I’m too clingy and I’m working on it. But I’m just a girl trying to look for a genuine relationship, and someone who I can build a life with.
Is this impossible now cos of the convenience of apps? Happy to hear what everyone here thinks
Netizens’ comments
- You’re not alone! I’ve completely given up on dating apps because of how shallow the people I’ve met there can be.
Meeting people in real life seems to work better for me, but its also easier said than done because you need to share similar interests with the opposite gender, and that’s not always as straightforward as it seems.
Everybody wants love, but not everyone wants to work for it.
I hope things work out for all of us eventually. - Just keep trying. My wife and I met on CMB (coffee meet bagel) we are happily married for almost 2 year with a baby boy
- What do you have to offer the man you want? Remember a man always has options. You need to clearly and critically evaluate yourself. Do not confuse the things you want with the things he wants. If you find yourself unable to offer anything he actually wants, no dating app or real life dating can fix this. Good luck.