Hello all, I’m seeking for some opinions here. I am a larger-sized female, weighing approximately 90kg. There is another girl in my class (let’s refer to her as girl A) who is slightly heavier than me, around 105kg.
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I believe I have developed good relationships and rapport with my classmates compared to girl A. However, it saddens me when I hear my classmates making fun of her weight, even though they have no ill intentions. I empathize with her because I can relate to being plus-sized.
The only apparent difference between us is my positive relationship with everyone in the class.
Nevertheless, my inner insecurities and lack of confidence make me feel inferior. I’m uncertain about how I should process these emotions…
Here are what netizens think:
- What other intentions could those classmates possibly have when they made fun of others except for an ill one? Words, no matter how minor can be hurtful. If your rapport is so good with them, you should use it to your advantage and speak up about it. Besides, what makes you think they aren’t doing the same behind your back? If they are your true friends, they’ll realise it and stop poking fun about a sensitive issue. If not, it’s best to keep your distance from these people. Embrace who you are as a person. If you want to make changes, remember to do it for yourself.
- This is gonna be a hard take. This ain’t going to be one of those “please pity fat people take” or tips and tricks to lose weight. Everyone knows how weight loss is achieved. ll that negative feelings fat people feel is because of the fact that they know they are in fact fat. It hurts when others insuniate it because it is true. But then, fat individuals chose the route to be fat. This is the solutions part. There’s two ways to go about it. Either commit to losing weight or commit to not caring about it at all. Both paths is a double edge sword, I guess this is the part where individuality takes over.
- Own your body. There is no need to feel inferior just because you are a certain weight. Weight loss is not something you must do to feel better about yourself. Believe me when I say if you do not actively try to make yourself happy, you won’t be happy no matter how skinny you become. Look at your positive attributes and work towards that. Also, lose those friends who like to talk behind people’s back. These People will do the same to you as they are doing to the girl. You should look for genuine friends to be with. Even being alone is better than being with disingenuous people.