Sorry, but I gotta rant a bit.
Firstly, let me say that I have no problem meeting new people, as friends or potential love interests or just socializing or whatever.
But lately there are guys who write me out of the blue (on social media, for example) and I don’t have any social references of them (aka people I know).
I suggest them to meet in normal places, like bars, and they decline. Instead, they suggest me to either meet “in nature” or at night in some random corner of the city which I don’t know well and where there normally aren’t many people around. When I say that I don’t want to meet there, they get weird about it, saying that I don’t trust them or that I must think they’re dangerous or whatever.
I understand that maybe they’re chill people, who knows. But there are men outside who don’t mean well with women. So me not wanting to meet someone I don’t know without anyone else present is just a general safety measure. And it would be nice if men would support this and not get sad or nasty about it. I’m tired of this happening…
Has it happened to you? What’s your opinion on such situations?
Here are what netizens think:
- My husband wanted our first date to be canoeing. I told him I would love to do things like that but I didn’t know him well enough yet and it wasn’t a safe thing for me to do. He was not only understanding but embarrassed he hadn’t considered that. Guys that get offended by you prioritizing your safety are red flags.
- I was explaining to my boyfriend when we started dating how I’m scared to camp solo. His immediate response was about how I’d be safe because there are no big predatory animals around here. I explained that men are the predators I’m afraid of and he felt really upset for me that it’s an issue I need to worry about in my life.
- My husband invited me to sushi on our first date. He offered to pick me up but I declined and said I would drive myself. He later explained he thought it was odd (his family is big on carpooling) but didn’t say anything and then forgot about it.