My boyfriend doesn’t get why I feel inferior to his (Gorgerous) female friend and it gets on my nerves
My boyfriend has a female friend who is very attractive and with whom we usually go out (Among other friends). They have known each other for a very long time, actually they went to school together, and I knew my boyfriend during my second year of uni.
I am, on the other hand, conventionally unattractive and quite the opposite to his friends in terms of looks. She is all I wish to be (Petite, good with makeup, small nose, etc). When I sit beside her I feel awful, like I were some kind of freak or monster.
Make no mistake, I like her. She is a perfectly sweet and respectful girl and we are becoming friends. And she has never attempted to cross any boundaries with my boyfriend. But still she intimidates me and makes me feel inferior.
I told my boyfriend about and it was like I were talking in other language. He just didn’t understand why I felt this way and pretended that the looks inequality between me and his friends didn’t exist, which really frustrated me.
Netizens’ comments
- Are you sure you’re conventionally unattractive though, or if it’s just what you think?
Either way he’s with you. Not her. So he obviously finds you attractive! She might not be his type in the looks department in the first place either. Just keep in mind that he’s likely not trying to disregard your feelings, but rather just doesn’t understand why you feel that way in the first place, because he doesn’t view you the same way you view yourself. - Envy will consume you and your relationship. Your bf won’t call you out constantly on your insecurity, he probably finds you attractive. It is really toxic to constantly hammer him on something he can’t fix.
- So I work with a girl. She doesn’t think much of herself. She shows me pics of her friends and says she feels that they are more attractive than her. Ngl, her friends are basic and I find her much much more attractive than them and most girls I meet.
- What did you expect/want him to say? You’re frustrated that he doesn’t see the “looks inequality”, would it be better if he agreed with you, and told you you’re uglier?
And what is he supposed to do about it? Not be friends with her? Call her ugly?
This is obviously not your boyfriends problem to fix. Your insecurity and inferiority complex is 100% on you